“I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.” – Mark Twain
Here’s a subject I’ve been meaning to discuss for quite some time. The discussion of this subject is long overdue, actually. It is a sad fact that in today’s society, most of us have been “programmed” in a way that our own minds actually work against us. This is not to absolve anyone of any personal accountability, but it speaks more to the way that people are being brought up and the influences which surrounds us. As a result, we develop not only self-defeating physical habits, but more importantly, self-defeating mental habits.
To illustrate my point, I’d like to ask you a question. Do you find it difficult to do the things you set out to do, even though you have every intention on doing those things? If you answered yes, it’s not your fault, at least not entirely. It’s easy for one to simply think of it as the person being lazy but it’s not that cut and dry. In situations of those types, what happens is that on a conscious level, you intend to do a thing but your subconscious mind doesn’t agree. Let me explain. I’m gonna assume that you are aware of the existence of our two states of mind — conscious and subconscious. Our conscious mind is that which we use to deal with the objective (physical) world. The subconscious mind, on the other hand, deals with the subjective (mental) world. How does that tie into setting goals and not following through? On a conscious, mundane level, you may intend to do a thing. If this thing is something that you aren’t in the habit of doing, it is going to be difficult because the subconscious mind will seek to pull you back into your comfort zone a.k.a drawing you back into old habits. In order to get that thing done, you usually have to force yourself to do it. Why? Because, again, that thing isn’t in-line with your subconscious mind (the real YOU).
The preceding sentence may conflict with some of the stuff you’ve read some of the self-help authors preach about the subconscious mind. Many will say that by accessing the subconscious mind, you will attract those things you desire like magic. When they tell you that half-truth, they forget to tell you that the subconscious becomes a force of what appears to be super-human powers to achieve only when the subconscious has been programmed by a desire or goal of one’s own choosing. Simply put — in order for you to become the person you’d like to become and make permanent change, the new habits you wish to develop have to be accepted by the subconscious mind, thereby becoming who you really are. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying by Napoleon Hill which says “Your reputation is what people think you are; your character is what you are.” What this means is that through the use of the conscious mind, you can act the part of whatever type of person you want others to believe that you are, but your character is the sum total of the thoughts and deeds you’ve performed your entire life. Stated another way, your character is who you are subconsciously and will always find a way of expressing itself.
How does this apply to the mind being a weapon against one’s self? The answer is really easy if you understand what was said above. What you must understand is that everything that you say, do and most importantly THINK, is recorded in the subconscious mind. Even more so, what you believe will be picked up by the subconscious and before you know it, you will act on those beliefs. In today’s world, we are bombarded by negative information almost constantly and we form beliefs that are picked up by our subconscious minds, thereby bringing nothing but undesirable results. Our entire existence, you could say, is the result of a self-fulfilling prophecy. The things that we’ve believed our entire lives has manifested themselves and our lives can be described as an average our of thoughts and beliefs throughout the years. People get negative results not because things really are bad, but because their belief which expressed itself through their actions and attitude, made it so. When thought of in this way, you should now begin to see why it’s important to start clearing your mind of negative beliefs.
Let’s give a few real world examples of what I’m describing. Look at a person’s who’s struggling to find a mate for a relationship. It’s almost as if nothing but bad luck comes that person’s way when it comes to meeting people. When you have a conversation with that person, however, what you discover is that their mind is full of negativity as it pertains to dating and relationships. They have certain beliefs about the opposite sex which prevents them from finding that which they claim to seek. They believe that men/women are a certain way and in their mind, they have a preconceived idea of how a relationship is going to end before it even happens. As a result, such a person meets someone, things go well in the beginning and what eventually happens is that our sample person begins to look for things in the other person that validate their belief that all men/women are a certain way. These things may not actually exist but that doesn’t matter because, remember, the mind has a tendency to find that which it seeks and will even go so far as to create that which it seeks. That being said, the person creates problems with their new found mate, scaring them away and in a strange way, our sample person is satisfied because their subconscious mind has just scored a victory. What sort of victory? It succeeded in not only keeping this individual in their comfort zone, but it succeeded also in validating a belief. This same principle applies to virtually anything in life.
I’m 100% certain that you’ve witnessed many people (I’m sure it’s happened to you as well) find what it is they’ve wanted, only to mess it up somehow, which by the way was no accident. It was habit doing what it does best — resisting change. If you enter into any situation with a negative mindset, 9 times out of 10, your subconscious mind is going to find a way to screw it up, out of habit, so that you can remain in your comfort zone.
But, you may wonder, how does one reprogram their mind to think positively instead of negatively? Well, I’ve got good news and and I’ve got bad news. The bad news is that the formula isn’t easy. The good news is that even though the method isn’t easy, it’s well worth it. The formula is this — you have to catch your subconscious mind when it’s thinking in ways that don’t benefit you. This means adapting new beliefs, new ways of thinking, etc. Until this is done, nothing you do in life will work because your mind will be stuck in self-destruct mode due to your old habits. For instance, have you ever tried to lose weight, and whenever you’ve been doing good for a great length of time, that small voice within you starts tempting you to go back to your old, bad eating habits? You listen to that voice, telling yourself that you’re only gonna do it once and the next thing you know, you’re back to your old ways and the diet is over. That voice is nothing but the subconscious mind trying to pull you back into the old way of doing things. You have to resist the urges to fall back into old habits. This resistance must come by force if necessary. This is the time when the conscious mind has to work overtime to catch the subconscious mind thinking in destructive ways. The conscious mind has to work also to make sure that when you set out to do things, they actually get done instead of allowing the already-conditioned subconscious mind to talk you out of it.
If you put forth an effort to stop your subconscious mind from thinking negatively and replacing those thoughts with those which you wish to think, those new thoughts will eventually become your new habits. This means no listening to people as they bitch and whine about their problems or spew their woeful views of life and the world. When you listen to that crap, it reaches your subconscious without your knowing, so it’s best avoid that foolishness altogether. This can be easily resolved by associating with winners and ditching losers. Just as vital, if not more vital, is SEEING IN YOUR MIND yourself as the person you’d like to become. Believe it or not, the way you see yourself in your own mind correlates directly with the way you appear on the outside. It is important to keep this up until you no longer have to make a conscious effort because by that time, this have become who you really are. When that happens, the mind is no longer a weapon against you.